It's not everyday that you meet someone with the same name who shares the same love of hair, beauty and fashion. And when it does happen it could be a coincidence, but in our case, it seemed we were definitely meant to cross paths.
How often is it that you meet someone with the same name that is contemplating a big change like going natural? We would have thought the chances were slim but when we discovered that we shared the same hair goals, it was surprising and reassuring to have someone who could relate and motivate!
In 2014, We did the big chop, (within months of each other) and have continued on our natural hair journey as a duo. Our journeys have been different, but one thing has remained the same, our passion for it. Here are our personal stories…
FOR MY DAUGHTER
Words: Yvonne. O
I've had relaxed hair since the tender age of 8 years old. I remember as a child wishing my hair was long and straight like my mothers. Instead my hair was super thick and to wash it felt like punishment. The process to wash, blow dry and style my hair felt like it took an entire day. My mum's hair just seemed so much easier to take care of and at the age of 5 began asking if I could have relaxed hair too.
Over the many years I was chemically treating my hair, it grew well and I kept up with my salon treatments, which helped to retain the length and keep it healthy. Fast forward to the 2011, when I had my daughter, I suffered a short period of postpartum hair loss, I struggled with the density of my hair, still I continued relaxing my hair for a year after.
Then something happened that made me see a completely different perspective on my hair choices. I remember during the summer of 2012, I was washing my daughters hair and in that moment, remembered my childhood desire to emulate my mother's beauty, through relaxed tresses. Understanding now what I didn't know then, I realised that as she got older, she would be more aware of society's benchmark of beauty. This made me determined to be the role model for natural hair and give my daughter the confidence to love hers, just the way it is. In the process I fell back in love with my afro! My daughter continues to be my inspiration for wearing my hair naturally every day.
Words: Yvonne. T
Anyone that knows me knows that I have always loved hair and had nearly EVERY hair style you can think of to prove it. From Long to short, weaved to braided, cut, dyed, styled it to the left and sleeked to the right. But one style I hadn’t tried was wearing my natural hair.
Early last year I was getting VERY bored with my hair. It wasn’t growing healthily, it was breaking and just over not co-operating with me at all. It was a consistent tug of war. Yvonne O would consistently ask me “why don’t you just cut it off and start again" and every time I would have 100 reasons why I couldn’t.
One very random day after work I decided cut it all off. It was that simple. I didn’t even have to think about it. I just did it and that was that. I cut it “boy” short on that Friday. The weekend passed and on Sunday night I thought hmm maybe I should have waited. But being the impulsive person that I ‘am it was much too late.That week/month I had mixed reviews as some liked it, some hated it, and some didn’t even notice it. Oh well I had done it and I couldn’t go back
Every now and then I think about switching it up but I gently remind myself of the stress I would go through. I think what I’m trying to say is that, going natural can be as big or small as a decision process as you want. Some people want to scream and shout about it while others will silently go through the transition without whispering about it. The main thing is to always remember it’s your choice and your time.